Style Guide: What NOT To Wear On A First Date

Even the most confident woman can be thrown off by a first date. Meeting someone for the first time can bring out the deepest of insecurities, because you want to show off your best assets without being inappropriate or ostentatious. Trust me, I know it is easy to succumb to some major fashion don'ts when prepping for a first date, which is exactly why I am listing them here along with alternatives so that you always look perfectly polished on your first date.



I find that on first dates there is a temptation to "knock" him out with your gorgeousness. Many women take this to mean you have to show some skin, but looking like a total knockout is definitely possible without showing off everything you've got. Dressing to show off your curves is allowed (and encouraged), as long as your dress or skirt is a decent length and your heels aren't the tallest in your closet. My tip: Leave the crop top at home. You'll just distract him from the parts of you that really matter. Jessie's look is subtly sensual. I love it! 

Style Don'ts: What Not To Wear On a First Date | Mel Boteri Style Guide | Seams for a Desire

Style Don'ts: What Not To Wear On a First Date | Overly Sexy Outfits | Mel Boteri Style Guide

1. THEORY Silk Crepe de Chine Shirt 2. JUNIOR BP Cat Eye Sunglasses 3. SKAGEN Mesh Strap Watch 4. DANIELLE NICOLE Cuff 5. MEL BOTERI Black Saffiano Leather Watson Mini Cross-Body Clutch 6. BP Rings 7. GIANVITO ROSSI Leather Pumps 8. HARRIET Knitted Mini Skirt



While some of us tend to look overly sexy on a first date, others tend to be way underdressed. Even if you have a bikini-ready body, do not wear leggings, a hoodie, or your worn-out sneakers on your first date. You'll give the impression that you have no interest in putting forth the effort to look nice. Now, I'm not saying you always have to have full makeup on, but a little lipstick and a skirt never hurt anyone. 

And because there will be certain occasions that call for something a bit more casual, try Maria's fun look instead.

Style Don'ts: What Not To Wear On a First Date | Mel Boteri Style Guide | The Wordy Girl

Style Don'ts: What Not To Wear On a First Date | A Sporty Look | Mel Boteri Style Guide

1. PHILOSOPHY Broderie Anglaise Tank Top 2. TAUDREY Bracelet 3. GIVENCHY Sunglasses 4. TAUDREY Bracelet 5. MEL BOTERI Black Lola Small Shoulder Bag - Python 6. TAUDREY Bracelet 7. TAUDREY Necklace 8. ADIDAS ORIGINALS Metallic Sneakers 9. RAG & BONE Cut-off Denim Shorts



While us fashionistas love a good print, men don't always understand the latest trends. So a first date might not be the best time to wear your most fashion-forward and modern print combo. No need to turn your date into the catwalk! Instead, try a pretty patterned blouse with a solid skirt or shorts like Jenna's look below. 

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Style Don'ts: What Not To Wear On a First Date | Print Clash Mania | Mel Boteri Style Guide

1. KENDRA SCOTT Earrings 2. ERDEM Silk Crepe de Chine Blouse 3. KENDRA SCOTT Necklace 4. KENDRA SCOTT Cuff Bracelet 5. GUCCI Sunglasses 6. MEL BOTERI Grey Saffiano Leather Watson Mini Cross-Body Clutch 7. STEVE MADDEN Sandals 8. CHLOE Pleated Crepe Shorts



While sequins were a staple on the red carpet this year, they should stay at home on a first date. You don't want the sequins reflecting in the sunlight to distract him from your gorgeous face do you?!

Instead, opt for a pretty beaded skirt or fun accessories. I need Courtney's skirt in my life asap!!

Style Don'ts: What Not To Wear On a First Date | Mel Boteri Style Guide | Courtney Kerr

Style Don'ts: What Not To Wear On a First Date | Too Many Sequins | Mel Boteri Style Guide

1. GORJANA Long Necklace 2. 7 FOR ALL MANKIND Washed Denim Shirt 3. JUNIOR BP Cat Eye Sunglasses 4. GORJANA Stud Earrings 5. MEL BOTERI Marissa Small Tote Handbag and Shoulder Bag 6. FREIDA ROTHMAN Rings 7. BAUBLEBAR Bracelet 8. GIANVITTO ROSSI Suede Boots 9. GIULIANA ROMANO Appliqué Mini Skirt

As scary as a first date can be, there is nothing more intoxicating or fun as those first few moments together - especially with the right man ;) Hopefully this week will help you ace your next first date style test. 

Be sure to join me next week for what to wear from 9-5 when it's 90 degrees outside. And in the meantime, please leave your comments below or email us directly at if you have any specific style questions and/or ideas for topics you would like for us to cover.


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